Take a look through your wardrobe and pull out all of the clothes that you’ve worn only once or twice; we’ll call this Pile A.
Then take a look through all of your clothes again (wardrobe and Pile A) and pick out the pieces that you’ve bought to either please someone else, or because someone else insisted you looked good in them (even though you didn’t quite agree); this shall be Pile B.
Now notice how much of Pile B is made up from the clothes in Pile A. I’m guessing it’s the majority.
Too many of us are guilty of buying clothes and dressing to please others. The result? You’re dressed in an outfit that isn’t you; meaning that your confidence is at an all time low because you don’t feel like yourself.
Maybe you’ve gone shopping with your other half or your mum and they’ve picked you out a ‘nice’ top or bottoms which “would really suit you” – that, normally, you wouldn’t even look twice at; and because you love your partner or (want to keep the peace with) your mum, you buy it to make them happy.
Back at home, as soon as you put it on, you know it’s not right. So you put the clothing to the back of the wardrobe and only bring it out when prompted.
1. What a waste of money.
2. You’re never going to wear it.
3. If you do wear it, you’ll end up feeling dowdy, unconfident and uncomfortable.
That, right there, is three great reasons as to why you shouldn’t ever do it again!
For thousands of years people have used clothes to signify status, to show who they are as a person and what they stand for. If you are not wearing what you would choose to wear, then you are mis-representing yourself to the world outside.
We feel better, perform better and achieve more when we are confident and self-assured. And, although it may sound vain – it’s true, a big part of our self-confidence is dictated by the clothes that we choose to wear. If we feel good in what we are wearing, we smile more, stand taller and give off a more relaxed yet focussed air.
So GET RID of the clothes that are not You. The bits that when you wear them, you never really feel at ease in, the bits that make you want to hide certain areas, the bits that you don’t feel confident in. Get rid of them all, they are doing you no favours.
And for future reference:
1. Wear what YOU want to wear.
2.When shopping, try it on at the shop. If you don’t feel instantly sexy or confident in it – DON’T BUY IT.
3. It’s okay to say “No“. You don’t want to waste your money on something you’re never going to wear.
You’re not dressing for anyone but your own self-confidence, if you look good, you will feel good and you will own the day!